Tuesday, April 2

Two Videos, Just for Fun

Somehow the month of March blew past. Projects, long days at work and bad weather combined to keep me from spending much time keeping up with blogging. But I'm back! Hopefully I'll get caught up on life the next couple days and get back to a semi-regular posting schedule. My brain's been busy, so there's lots to post about!

While I'm getting my ramblings cleaned up enough to be coherently post-able, I thought I'd share two videos I ran across last month that made me laugh out loud. 

First, a funny but touching speech by a father of the bride that I saw over at Holy Experience, Ann Voskamp's beautiful blog. 



Next, something for the geeks of the world. I'm not actually a fan of the Gangnam style video, but this parody done by NASA is hysterical!


Enjoy!  :)

Monday, March 4

Love No Matter What (book review)

Let me start with a disclaimer: I do not have children of my own. I picked up this book because I know a lot of parents who have struggled with and been deeply hurt by the choices their children have made. I've seen the guilt, the anger and widely varied responses on the part of church families.

Basics about the book: this is a fast read. Simple, to the point, and full of personal stories and examples. The author writes about the struggle she and her husband had with their strong-willed eldest daughter, with little blurbs from the daughter's perspective inserted here and there. Topics discussed include the theology applicable in situations like theirs, parenting styles, love languages, boundaries, and the role(s) of people both within and outside the family.

My opinion:  A lot of the advice was completely sound: pick your battles, manage your feelings (rather than letting them make things worse), have boundaries, make sure you're speaking the child's love language, don't live under the burden of guilt, understand when it's okay to share and when to keep your mouth shut, and let your child deal with the consequences of their actions.

The author was also very honest about the fact that no person and no church is perfect. It may not be what we'd like, but we do the best we can with what we have. I give her a great deal of credit for being able to tell people to remember that it's not about them, and they need to check their perspective. So all of that was good, and if this is something you struggle with, you might find some encouragement and affirmation here.

That said, I feel this book should come with a warning. It is written from the perspective of showing unrequited grace from a position of calm and strength. That may be a goal, but if you're not in a strong place I think this could be a painful read. Strong willed children, especially those in the grips of bad decisions, can inflict tremendous amounts of emotional pain, and I think it's crucial for parents to hear that it's okay to need some love and grace themselves. I also think that as much as want to lavish grace, boundaries are healthy - and my boundaries wouldn't have been nearly so lenient as the ones the author used.

Menu Idea Monday: Better Than Coffeeshop Chai

Chai tea from Teavana
I first encountered chai tea while working at a coffee shop in college. It came in a packet, like hot chocolate. You just ripped it open, stirred in the hot water and were good to go. It was good, and a nice change from coffee once in a while.

I stopped drinking it when I started cleaning up my diet. There were just too many chemicals and fake sugars in the packets to stomach. I tried copy cat recipes a few times, but they always turned out poorly and I generally gave up on the idea.

Until I encountered Samurai Chai at Teavana. We like to hit Teavana between Christmas and New Years - it's the only time of year they ever have their tea on sale, so it's the best time to score great deals on their excellent blends. A teaspoon of this tea blend, brewed hot and left to sit for five minutes, with a dab of honey and a splash of whole, raw milk swirled in is heavenly. Especially on cold, wet days when a pick-me-up is most welcome.

Far better than any chai I've ever had out somewhere, and completely clean, it's a wonderful treat. At a teaspoon a cup, a little goes a long way. (Steep a little longer the second time around, and you can get a nice second cup out of that same teaspoon, making it go even farther!)

So if you're looking for an alternative to coffee, or just some small indulgence to ease the long days of March, consider this. You may never drink coffeeshop chai again!

Thursday, February 28

Don't Buy It (The Bad Math or the House)

In a City not far from us, the municipal government in rolling out a new Walk to Work program. In theory, it sounds great: local employers team up with the government, Realtors, banks,and local service groups (schools, emergency services, etc.) to create the ideal home buying environment for potential homeowners. They target employees of big local employers and push to get them to move into empty or for-sale houses in the area, highlighting benefits such as being able to walk to work, knowing your neighbors, etc. The goals, of course, are to reduce the empty/ sub-standard housing in a low-income or derelict areas by enticing higher-income families to buy, invest in, and rehabilitate local housing stock, and to increase the tax base to support programming and benefits for low-income residents. I honestly think that most of the people involved believe they're doing something good.

But government math is flawed. If the targeted potential buyers aren't careful, they're going to pay the price in more ways than one.

Let's look at how the program works in practice, shall we?

If you're a renter, you're not paying property taxes. This is what makes you such a keen target for the government in the first place. You are paying plenty of income taxes, though, and if you have the kind of solid job they're targeting, your taxes have likely just gone up – a lot.

If you buy one of the target houses, you can expect to need to sink a bunch of money into it. The fact is that no matter how attractive the program terms and the subsidies the government will throw in for the initial purchase price, the property will need work and it will be expensive. Being in the City, there won't be any way around the mandatory permits and inspections, either. With Code Enforcement being one of the primary ways police forces are looking to keep the area crime rate in check, you can expect to sink a pretty penny into useless and aesthetic concerns as well just to avoid fines.

When you and your coworkers start to improve your properties, the taxes start to climb. Not only are you now paying property taxes and school taxes, but every improvement you make raises the price you're required to pay. With the value of your area increasing, thanks to an influx of invested new homeowners, taxes go up even more. If a good portion of you have families, expect school taxes to rise as well as the district expands programming to meet demand.

But the money you and your neighbors are pouring into the tax coffers aren't going into the kinds of programming and improvements you or your families will benefit from – they're being used to support the residents of public housing and the per-existing low-income population.

Fast forward a few years. Had you stayed a renter, you could have managed the income tax increases and still been able to put some money away for a rainy day. As a homeowner, enticed by the government program, you're broke and struggling. Even if your job stayed steady, the costs associated with buying your home have sky rocketed. Between the income tax hikes associated with Obamacare and the property tax hike cycle discussed above, you're going to be hard pressed to keep up with your payments. Meanwhile, your kids go to a school that is forced to spend most of its funding and energy managing the problem children of the neighborhood and your town has little money left after paying out its required support for low-income residents to fund the libraries, youth sports leagues, and municipal improvements that would apply to you.

How you will feel at tax time if you let
the government or the bank do math
for you!
I'm not bashing home-ownership, or suggesting nefarious intent on the part of the employers or community supporters of such programs. But I would caution anyone tempted to participate in a government-supported housing program of any kind to be very careful. They may have the best of intentions, but the reality is that they can only afford to support programming that increases the tax base – i.e. finds new ways to squeeze money out of the people working their butts off to make it so it can be “redistributed”.

You cannot count on bankers or the government to do math for you, or to give you a realistic portrait of what you can afford. They won't take into account necessities like food and clothing, and they certainly won't admit to the tax hikes they know are coming. Do your own math – and do it with an eye towards healthy skepticism and Murphy's Law. Because when it comes to the government, and particularly government supported housing programs caveat emptor is the rule of the day.

Tuesday, February 26

Please Make a Plan for Your Pets

Our baby girl the day we got her. She's
much fluffier and much rounder now!
When we got our sweet Nenya from the Glen Highland Farm Border Collie rescue, one of the things they asked us was to make sure we had a plan for our furry companions should anything happen to us.  I was reminded of that again when they sent us a link to their youtube video, celebrating all the dogs who found homes in 2012.

So I'd like to take a minute to pass along their request - no matter what kind of dog you have. It is heart breaking to read summaries of dogs up for adoption, explaining how they were the constant companion of their person until the diagnosis of a terminal illness or the move to assisted living. Suddenly without a home, and with the person's family unable to take them in for one reason or another, they are bereft. The lucky ones end up somewhere like the Glen Highland, with compassionate people to love on them and help them find new homes.

Our handsome Arthas, taking a nap under Daddy's hat,
Indiana Jones style.
Please make sure that you have a safety net for your pets in the event that something happens to you - no matter how young or old you are! Don't assume that your family members can or will take care of them - make sure you have an established arrangement with someone, and that it is clearly known or spelled out somewhere. If necessary, find a safe and loving rescue like Glen Highland and arrange to have them take in your furry companion if the worst happens.



Check out the GHF video of all the dogs they found homes for in 2012 (since youtube is being dumb and won't let me embed it here) at http://www.glenhighlandfarm.com/ghfdogs.htm.
(Warning: have a tissue on hand. It was so sweet I cried.)

 

Monday, February 25

Black Tea Butter Latte

Photo from Sex, Food and Kettlebells.
I discovered an awesome Paleo blog called Sex, Food and Kettlebells.

Expect to see a couple recipes from them coming up as I try some of the great stuff they have posted (or go check it out yourself if you have a minute).

The first thing I picked to try was the Black Tea Butter Latte - delectable and good for you! This was a great treat for a cold, windy day and definitely something I'll make again. Enjoy!

Sunday, February 24

To The Bat Cave!

Mosquitoes are a quintessential part of the ecosystem, as much as any human (especially one who likes to wear blue) would like it to not be the case.  But there's ways around the DEET.  According to "This Old House," a single North American Brown Bat can consume as many as 600 mosquitoes in a single hour!  That's good enough for me! 

First, some materials are needed.  An old screen that matches nothing on the property should provide some excellent footholds.  Seriously, where did the previous owners find half of the stuff they left on the property?

I recycled!  Where's my Nobel Prize?











Screen installed on the interior of the house.

Be sure to use plenty of adhesive on the seams.  These little dark knights don't care for forced induction heating systems.






Bats are crunchy, and taste good with dirt.  Let's ensure even the most intrepid of predators can't get inside by adding a pinch point at the bottom.  Bats can squeeze around an area the size of a dime, so they won't mind at all.


Don't paint the interior, even if it will make it darker.  Bats are sensitive, and the paint chemicals won't be pleasing to them.







Ready for paint; done and done!

I used a flat version of the Garage's color, so it'll absorb more heat than gloss would.  In hindsight, I should have used a darker color since it didn't match after all.

Mount it high.  The higher, the better, and project done!  And we'll now see if Nightwing and company like their new accommodations when it gets a little warmer. 


If only I re-painted that stupid black trim last summer.  Oh well, something to add to the list!